Transform Me

  “When you change your habits, you change your life.” You are the creator of your life, and to create the life you want, you simply change your habits. Sounds easy, doesn’t it? Unfortunately, it isn’t something that happens with the snap of a finger, it takes time and perseverance. One of the hardest things for some people is that they don’t even know where to begin. Of course, meeting with a transformational specialist like myself is extremely helpful because I can help you tap into your desire for change and motivate you by helping you to tap into your personal power. Until you make that choice for yourself, I am going to give you what I think is the perfect starting point for change. Clearing your clutter.   What do I mean by clearing your clutter? Am I suggesting that you do a Kon Mari deep clean of you home? No, I’m not. However, if that is something that you feel is necessary, have at it. But I feel that removing physical, mental, emotional, and digital excess that no l...

Today is a very important day for you. What are you going to do with it? Are you going to stay stuck where you are right now or are you going to choose to do something different? As humans we are creatures of habit, and moving outside of our habits can be uncomfortable and scarry. Most of us don't like to admit it but we just can't do it alone, we need someone to help us, motivate us, tell us to not listen to our critter brain and step into the new and out of the old. John F. Kennedy said, "There are costs and risks to a program of action, but these are far less than the long-range risks and costs of comfortable inaction." What program of action are you ready to take? Where do you feel stuck?   Are you moving into a new phase of life that creates a feeling of uneasiness? Just graduated? You're a new parent? An empty nester? Feel lost? etc. My program of transformational action is just what you need to tap into your own personal power and create new possibilities f...

Winter time is coming to a close, and the world is beginning to prepare itself for the arrival of spring. Spring is all about rebirth. It reminds me of the mythical bird, the phoenix. This beautiful bird lives it life until it starts to lose it feathers, it loses its beauty and then it uses the power of the sun to catch himself on fire before it dies. This pile of ashes appears as if it is the end of the bird, but then something wonderful and amazing happens, it rises from the ashes and lives again. It does this over and over again. This is the ultimate representation of the rebirth of the body, mind, and soul, that unleashes itself when the spirit is set free from its shackles (those things that bind). We all are like the phoenix. I don’t mean that we can literally die and then be reborn again (though there are some who believe this is possible), but we can lose parts of ourselves, become a shell of who we are and then allow the power of those things to bury us (as the ashes buries th...

 Out of my 4 kids 3 of them have disabilities. It took a long time to figure out exactly what they had. They tried to tell me that 2 of them were ADHD and needed to be on medication. I said no to the meds until I learned more about ADHD. The more I studied the more I realized that they didn’t have it. The school kept nagging me to put them on meds and I kept refusing. I finally got the new school psychologist and their speech pathologist to listen to my concerns. They got together and looked over the kid’s school records and decided to do some testing again. This time they discovered that, yes, my kids did have attention problems but they weren’t ADHD or ADD, they had a thought processing disorder. They also told me that it was a good thing that I never put them on meds or it would have made it WORSE not better. I looked right at the principle and said, “See, I told you that I felt like putting them on meds wasn’t the right thing to do!” He, and the teachers in there (all pushing f...

My first marriage lasted WAY too long and was full of mental abuse, and a lot of other issues. Needless to say, it played on my self-esteem ruthlessly. After the kids started coming (4 kids in 3 ½ years, and no, there were no multiple births, all single ones) that he would want to change and be a good dad for them, after all when we were dating he was always saying how much he wanted to be a dad and all of the things he wanted to do with them – all lies – he never did anything with them (1 family vacation was all and that was to go see his brother). He was not there for us financially (so of course I HAD to work), socially, spiritually, emotionally, etc.… he was just plain neglectful in his responsibilities as a husband, father, and I would even say a person. He rarely worked (except for the job he had for 5 years, the others never lasted a year with many months in between). When he was home, he was a body in front of the TV whether playing video games or watching TV, and there was no ...

  This probably should have been my very first post, since this is a new blog, but I got so excited about sharing information to help others that I forgot that people would probably want to know who I am. So here is a little bit about me.   My name is Boots (thus my business name – uses my name as an acronym). I am a mother of 4 children, 3 girls and one boy (of course the boy is the baby, and boy did he hate that). I worked in the education system for a little over 20 years (I have my early childhood degree, my elementary and secondary license with an emphasis in language arts). I just loved watching the student’s faces as they finally grasped a concept and watching them grow and change. My last 10 years were in the special education classroom as an aide and though it was challenging it was oh so rewarding. I also worked for several years with special needs adults and that was very rewarding.   During the COVID-19 pandemic I ended up in the hospital with multiple blo...